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23 WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP (www.health-first.org)

Physical or sexual violence may occur without warning. Sometimes, however, there may be signs or "red flags" that serve as warnings that abuse may occur. The following are examples of a person's behavior or personality that may be a warning that a person may be abusive. If you answer yes to one or more of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship or be at risk for it. It is recommended that you speak with a domestic violence advocate.

1. Does your partner tease you in a hurtful way in private or in public?

2. Does your partner call you names such as "stupid" or "bitch"?

3. Does your partner act jealous of your friends, family, or co-workers?

4. Does your partner get angry about clothes you wear or how you style your hair?

5. Does your partner check-up on you by calling, driving by, or getting someone else to?

6. Has your partner gone places with you or sent someone just to "keep an eye on you"?

7. Does your partner insist on knowing who you talk with on the phone?

8. Does your partner blame you for his problems or his bad mood?

9. Does your partner get angry so easily that you feel like you're "walking on eggshells"?

10. Does your partner hit walls, drive dangerously, or do other things to scare you?

11. Does your partner often drink or use drugs?

12. Does your partner insist that you drink or use drugs with him?

13. Have you lost friends or no longer see some of your family because of your partner?

14. Does your partner accuse you of being interested in someone else?

15. Does your partner read your mail, go through your purse, or other personal papers?

16. Does your partner keep money from you, keep you in debt, or have "money secrets?"

17. Has your partner kept you from getting a job, or caused you to lose a job?

18. Has your partner sold your car, made you give up your license, or not repaired your car?

19. Does your partner threaten to hurt you, your children, family, friends, or pets?

20. Does your partner force you to have sex when you do not want to?

21. Does your partner force you to have sex in ways that you do not want to?

22. Does your partner threaten to kill you or himself if you leave?

23. Is your partner like "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde," acting one way in front of other people and another way when you are alone?

How to Spot Signs of an Abusive Relationship

 Instructions

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  Step 1:
  
  Watch for controlling behavior. If your loved ones' partner determines where she goes, who she can and can't be with, and what time she must be home, it is a warning sign of abuse.
  
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  Step 2:
  
  Keep an eye out for extreme jealousy and possessiveness. We all get a little jealous or even a little possessive of our partners. When this jealousy is taken to the extreme, it is unhealthy.
  
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  Step 3:
  
  Observe the way she speaks to him. If she regularly puts him down or belittles him, it becomes abusive.
  
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  Step 4:
  
  Pay attention to how often she can see her friends and family. Isolation from friends and family generally happens slowly, over a period of time. If you notice that she can never hang out with you, other friends or her family, she is probably involved in an abusive relationship.
  
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  Step 5:
  
  Don't believe the excuses. If you notice bruises or scratches on a regular basis, don't believe her when she says "I fell, I'm so clumsy."
  

Tips & Warnings

• Don't be judgmental. If your loved one is involved in an abusive relationship, she needs a friend, not someone that is going to lecture or pass judgment on her.
• Be understanding, but not to a fault. You want to support your loved one and help him get out of the abusive relationship, but you don't want to convey the message that it is OK or healthy for him to stay.
• Don't confront the abuser. If your suspicions are confirmed and corroborated with other friends and family, talk to your loved one first. If you confront the abuser, he may take it out on the victim.
• Don't attack the victim. When voicing your opinion about the relationship, make sure she knows that she is loved and cared about. Accusing her of making bad decisions will make matters worse.

Please ladies..talk to someone if u come across these problems..don't hold it to yourself..  I know someone who even dare to slash his girlfriend's back..and guess what?they recently got married..Sometimes..It keeps me wonder..why wouldn't she let go?Why does she let herself be tortured by that "animal"?I was told by many ..women likes it  that way..they love abusive men.. is that the truth?Give me some comment about this topic ok?thanx